today mark the end of a series of hibernation. pick it up and move on...
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I'm not a good friend.
Recently, I've gotten quite a few slap on my face from some 'friends' that would like to tell me the 'truth' about me in their 'own opinion'. Digging up incidents from the pasts, pushing me to accept their opinions as the correct interpretation of things from their point of view and not giving me the chance to explain myself cos that is consider as me being 'defensive'. But then, am i to accept everything that other ppl say without explaining it from my point of view of the whole scenario?
I don't know what makes 'friend(s)' think that they can have a session of slapping me with 'what they feel i do wrong'. Did I do that to you? Did I pick a time to tell you all your 'bad habits' and tell you how 'to live your life' and how you also 'hurt me'? No. I dont. I accept you as you are with your bad habit and all but then you dont accept me as I am? Sure. I am the one that need to change and the one that is wrong. You have no wrong and no bad habit to change.
Oh, and by the way, according to my conscience, I've tried to change myself and my habits and my attitude in the past two years. Did you see that? Of course not, right. You only see where I am wrong and where I should change to suit you, not offend you and be the kind of friend you want. But I've to accept you in the way you want to live, they way u felt you've 'sacrificed' and not be offended just because I should be the epitome of 'good friend' to you but not you to me. great plan!
thanks but no thanks for asking me to sit down and listen to you in piling a mountain of your critics, comments, opinion and thoughts in my already drowning situation from another 'friend' that thinks I deserve it too. that does not encourage you to be a better friend to me too. i need 'fire extinguishers' and encouragers that tell me i can pull through it, i can change, i can bite the bullet and make the best out of things, i can do better and not 'i told you so, you deserved it because you are a messed up tyrant. and you will not survive'. push me off the cliff when im struggling at the edge just cos you think you should tell me the 'truth' like the 'good friend' you are 'supposed to be'. ?! on one hand tell me to share with u my down times but then take the moment to push me off the cliff?!
sigh... i give up, man. just cos i'm the christian, the 'leader' (i've resigned), the church staff, your friend, i'm supposed to be one to take your critics humbly (accept the sentence without the trial on my side of the story), apologise just cos u think i offends you (even though i forgave and forget about those times you offended me and didnt insist on an apology from u), change myself to suit u (even though i accept you the way you are but u cant accept me the way i am), must take in your opinion and not say anything (cos now i'm being called defensive).
yes. I'm not a good friend to you. ... but neither are you to me. =P
I don't know what makes 'friend(s)' think that they can have a session of slapping me with 'what they feel i do wrong'. Did I do that to you? Did I pick a time to tell you all your 'bad habits' and tell you how 'to live your life' and how you also 'hurt me'? No. I dont. I accept you as you are with your bad habit and all but then you dont accept me as I am? Sure. I am the one that need to change and the one that is wrong. You have no wrong and no bad habit to change.
Oh, and by the way, according to my conscience, I've tried to change myself and my habits and my attitude in the past two years. Did you see that? Of course not, right. You only see where I am wrong and where I should change to suit you, not offend you and be the kind of friend you want. But I've to accept you in the way you want to live, they way u felt you've 'sacrificed' and not be offended just because I should be the epitome of 'good friend' to you but not you to me. great plan!
thanks but no thanks for asking me to sit down and listen to you in piling a mountain of your critics, comments, opinion and thoughts in my already drowning situation from another 'friend' that thinks I deserve it too. that does not encourage you to be a better friend to me too. i need 'fire extinguishers' and encouragers that tell me i can pull through it, i can change, i can bite the bullet and make the best out of things, i can do better and not 'i told you so, you deserved it because you are a messed up tyrant. and you will not survive'. push me off the cliff when im struggling at the edge just cos you think you should tell me the 'truth' like the 'good friend' you are 'supposed to be'. ?! on one hand tell me to share with u my down times but then take the moment to push me off the cliff?!
sigh... i give up, man. just cos i'm the christian, the 'leader' (i've resigned), the church staff, your friend, i'm supposed to be one to take your critics humbly (accept the sentence without the trial on my side of the story), apologise just cos u think i offends you (even though i forgave and forget about those times you offended me and didnt insist on an apology from u), change myself to suit u (even though i accept you the way you are but u cant accept me the way i am), must take in your opinion and not say anything (cos now i'm being called defensive).
yes. I'm not a good friend to you. ... but neither are you to me. =P
Do Good N Help Others
Galatians 6:10, so then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of faith
Psalm 145:9, the Lord is good to all, and His mercies are over all His works.
Recently, I've thoughts on this topic. The Bible teaches me to do good and I see my pastors always do good and help others. Yet I also grow up in an environment that is petty in doing good unless there is return reward and if there is no known return, I get scolding for helping and usually end in a heated argument. Sometimes I feel like I should stop helping others so that I don't create any fights at home.
Recently, a close family friend passed away. She was a multimillionaire but live like a miser herself. Of course all the money was saved up and now given away to nieces and nephews. I was sadden by the news especially since I did not get to see her in her last days. But during this CNY, the gossip that I heard saddens me even more. Phrases like "...that niece should have bodek her aunt so that she gets all her inheritance.." kept popping up. I don't know how to respond.
Personally, I feel like it is such an irresponsible statement and the intention of the person is so 'not morally right,' not to mention Christ-like. Yet the person that said that is a close family member. If I were to speak out, she will be offended and feels that I am being disrespectful. In a Chinese family culture that is consider "no big no small" (does not respect the elderly). Yet If I don't speak up, it will be like I agree with her, which I don't. The dilemma is laughable.
I want to do good and learn to do more good but there are those in this fallen world that does not 'like' to do good and even discourages me to do good. To continue the story, the niece mentioned did not treat her aunt well and now live in fear that her ghost will come back and haunt her. She live like a mental breakdown person now. Do good not just so that we can live without mental breakdown but do good just cos we should and need to do good because that is good.
Thank God there is the Word Of God to constantly align us to be Christ-like and do good.
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From Jasmine with love
To Sharon for tears..
before Jasmine Yow left to Australia, she gave me this packet of "cute healer" snack with a note that says that I can only eat it when I'm down and need some comfort.
So for the whole of last year, I dare not eat it just for the sake of wanting to munch. I waited and waited and last week, I've no choice but to eat it already cos it's gonna be expired if I don't eat it anymore! hahhaa..
Dear Jasmine,
Last year was rough but I managed to hang on and didn't succumb to pity party. There were teary moments but I told myself that I can still hang on and can save your love-snack till a worse moment.. and before I know it, i've survived the year.
But through this simple pack of junkfood, I remember your love and thoughts throughout 2011.
Hugs,
Sharon
before Jasmine Yow left to Australia, she gave me this packet of "cute healer" snack with a note that says that I can only eat it when I'm down and need some comfort.
So for the whole of last year, I dare not eat it just for the sake of wanting to munch. I waited and waited and last week, I've no choice but to eat it already cos it's gonna be expired if I don't eat it anymore! hahhaa..
Dear Jasmine,
Last year was rough but I managed to hang on and didn't succumb to pity party. There were teary moments but I told myself that I can still hang on and can save your love-snack till a worse moment.. and before I know it, i've survived the year.
But through this simple pack of junkfood, I remember your love and thoughts throughout 2011.
Hugs,
Sharon
